Positive peer relations in childhood have been linked to which of the following in adulthood

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What Are They?

Most people would agree that few things impacted their school lives as much as their relationships with their peers—friends, acquaintances, or otherwise. Peer relationships play an important role in children’s school lives, and relationships with peers become even more influential as children enter adolescence.

Research on positive peer relationships often distinguishes between friendship and peer acceptance. High-quality friendships involve not only companionship, but also caring, validation, and support. In addition to playing together, good friends feel comfortable opening up to each other and are motivated to resolve conflicts that arise.

Peer acceptance, sometimes referred to by researchers as popularity, focuses on how much students like or like to play with their classmates, and has been found to affect students’ sense of belonging in school and their academic achievement.

A 5th grade math teacher read a study that found that students’ math grades improve when they exhibit self-control and when they feel accepted by other students in the class. As a result, she has students practice mindfulness each morning to help develop their attention skills, and she creates a safe and welcoming classroom through cooperative problem-solving groups and regular class meetings so that students feel they belong and are connected to one another.

Why Are They Important?

Research shows that positive peer relationships benefit students in a myriad of ways, at school and in life.

Both quantity and quality of relationships matter for kids.

  • Studies have found that young children with higher numbers of friends are less likely to be lonely, and more likely to like and be engaged at school.
  • In middle childhood, peer acceptance, friendship, and friendship quality all matter in terms of reducing a child’s chance of loneliness.
  • Positive peer relationships help make children more resilient, even when they face difficulties at home.

Having one good friend can be enough.

  • Having just one close friend can be enough to protect kids from the negative effects of being treated badly by other peers.
  • Similarly, research shows that adolescents with at least one reciprocal friendship have higher self-esteem than those without one; on the other hand, having greater numbers of friendships doesn’t seem to further increase self-esteem.

Especially for adolescents, positive relationships with peers make a big difference in other areas of life.

  • Peer acceptance relates positively to GPA in middle school; in fact, research shows that positive peer relationships can explain up to 40% of adolescents’ academic achievement.
  • Positive peer support also predicts adolescents’ health and well-being (across cultures) and their emotional and behavioral engagement with school, an effect that increases over time.
  • Likewise, teens whose close friends are prosocial are much more likely to set prosocial goals and behave prosocially themselves in the future.

Practice Collections

Practices

Positive peer relations in childhood have been linked to which of the following in adulthood

36 Questions to Help Kids Make Friends

A fun, fast way for students to develop close friendships

Middle School

Multiple Sessions

Positive peer relations in childhood have been linked to which of the following in adulthood

A Moment for Me: A Self-Compassion Break for Teens

Students learn how to comfort themselves during stressful times.

Middle School, High School

≤ 15 minutes

Positive peer relations in childhood have been linked to which of the following in adulthood

Acts of Kindness

Students draw and write about ways they have acted with kindness towards others.

PreK/Lower Elementary

≤ 30 minutes

Positive peer relations in childhood have been linked to which of the following in adulthood

Be the Change: Performing Acts of Kindness

Students identify ways they can practice “random acts of kindness.”

Positive peer relations in childhood have been linked to which of the following in adulthood

Behind Your Back

Foster positive relationships by speaking kindly about someone “behind their back.”

PreK/Lower Elementary, Upper Elementary, Middle School, High School, College, Adult

≤ 15 minutes

Positive peer relations in childhood have been linked to which of the following in adulthood

A cooperative learning technique that engages all students’ participation through movement, discussion, and communication of ideas.

Upper Elementary, Middle School, High School, College

≤ 1 hour

Positive peer relations in childhood have been linked to which of the following in adulthood

Check for Understanding Circle

Use the Circle process to encourage students to safely and respectfully share their level of understanding on an academic topic.

Middle School, High School, College

≤ 30 minutes

Positive peer relations in childhood have been linked to which of the following in adulthood

Check-in Circle for Community Building

Use the Circle process to build a sense of connection among students and staff by sharing moods, feelings, and moments of joy and pain.

PreK/Lower Elementary, Upper Elementary, Middle School, High School, College, Adult

≤ 30 minutes

Positive peer relations in childhood have been linked to which of the following in adulthood

Contemplative Reading

Students read a text slowly and reflect on its personal meaning for them.

Middle School, High School, College

≤ 30 minutes

Positive peer relations in childhood have been linked to which of the following in adulthood

Cool Kid: An SEL Kernels Practice for Fifth Grade

A routine for celebrating each student in your class

Upper Elementary

≤ 15 minutes

Positive peer relations in childhood have been linked to which of the following in adulthood

Cool Kid: An SEL Kernels Practice for First Grade

A routine for celebrating each student in your class

PreK/Lower Elementary

≤ 15 minutes

Positive peer relations in childhood have been linked to which of the following in adulthood

Cool Kid: An SEL Kernels Practice for Fourth Grade

A routine for celebrating each student in your class

Upper Elementary

≤ 15 minutes

Positive peer relations in childhood have been linked to which of the following in adulthood

Cool Kid: An SEL Kernels Practice for Kindergarten

A routine for celebrating each student in your class

PreK/Lower Elementary

≤ 15 minutes

Positive peer relations in childhood have been linked to which of the following in adulthood

Cool Kid: An SEL Kernels Practice for Second Grade

A routine for celebrating each student in your class

PreK/Lower Elementary

≤ 15 minutes

Positive peer relations in childhood have been linked to which of the following in adulthood

Cool Kid: An SEL Kernels Practice for Sixth Grade

A routine for celebrating each student in your class

Middle School

≤ 15 minutes

Positive peer relations in childhood have been linked to which of the following in adulthood

Cool Kid: An SEL Kernels Practice for Third Grade

A routine for celebrating each student in your class

Upper Elementary

≤ 15 minutes

Positive peer relations in childhood have been linked to which of the following in adulthood

Crooked Circle: A Game for Building Trust

A game involving balance and teamwork that helps build trust.

PreK/Lower Elementary, Upper Elementary, Middle School

≤ 15 minutes

Positive peer relations in childhood have been linked to which of the following in adulthood

Designing the Classroom to Promote Kindness 

Students provide input on changes that could be made to the classroom to subtly cue kind behavior.

PreK/Lower Elementary, Upper Elementary, Middle School, High School

≤ 30 minutes

Positive peer relations in childhood have been linked to which of the following in adulthood

Encouraging Prosocial Actions in Students

Students engage in prosocial (kind, helpful) actions for ten days and reflect on the impact of their actions on themselves and others.

Middle School, High School, College

Multiple Sessions

Positive peer relations in childhood have been linked to which of the following in adulthood

Family Business

Teachers and students create a safe space to develop strong relationships.

PreK/Lower Elementary, Upper Elementary, Middle School, High School

≤ 15 minutes

Positive peer relations in childhood have been linked to which of the following in adulthood

Feeling Connected for Students

Students think about a time when they felt close to someone in order to foster a sense of belonging and well-being.

Middle School, High School, College

≤ 15 minutes

Positive peer relations in childhood have been linked to which of the following in adulthood

Flow and Tell

In this circle activity, students practice mindful speaking and mindful listening.

PreK/Lower Elementary, Upper Elementary, Middle School, High School

≤ 15 minutes

Positive peer relations in childhood have been linked to which of the following in adulthood

Fostering Empathy Through Literature (Elementary Level)

A list of discussion questions to help cultivate students’ empathy.

PreK/Lower Elementary, Upper Elementary

≤ 30 minutes

Positive peer relations in childhood have been linked to which of the following in adulthood

Fostering Empathy Through Literature (Middle School & High School)

A list of discussion questions to help cultivate students’ empathy.

Middle School, High School

≤ 30 minutes

Positive peer relations in childhood have been linked to which of the following in adulthood

Four Corners

An interactive learning strategy that helps students clarify their own ideas and hear other perspectives—while getting them out of their seats.

PreK/Lower Elementary, Upper Elementary, Middle School, High School, College

≤ 30 minutes

Positive peer relations in childhood have been linked to which of the following in adulthood

From Sympathy to Action

Students think about the factors that encourage and discourage people to act when they confront suffering or injustice.

High School, College

≤ 1 hour

Positive peer relations in childhood have been linked to which of the following in adulthood

Getting to Know Each Other Through Dance

Students practice their social skills with each other while learning a new dance move

PreK/Lower Elementary, Upper Elementary, Middle School, High School

≤ 30 minutes

Positive peer relations in childhood have been linked to which of the following in adulthood

Honesty Commitment for Students

Strategies to encourage and help students practice honesty

PreK/Lower Elementary, Upper Elementary

≤ 15 minutes

Positive peer relations in childhood have been linked to which of the following in adulthood

I See You. Everyone Matters.

Acknowledge the faces of everyone in your classroom or meeting to deepen a sense of group connection.

High School, College, Adult

≤ 15 minutes

Positive peer relations in childhood have been linked to which of the following in adulthood

Kindness Art for Students

Making art about kindness inspires students to be caring and generous.

PreK/Lower Elementary, Upper Elementary

≤ 15 minutes

Positive peer relations in childhood have been linked to which of the following in adulthood

Kindness Buddy

Students get a secret kindness buddy to do a kind act for during the week.

PreK/Lower Elementary

≤ 30 minutes

Positive peer relations in childhood have been linked to which of the following in adulthood

Loving-Kindness for Someone You Care About

Students mentally send good wishes to someone who is important to them.

Upper Elementary, Middle School, High School

≤ 15 minutes

Positive peer relations in childhood have been linked to which of the following in adulthood

Make Fast Friends

Students establish and build friendships with classmates in a safe way.

Middle School

≤ 15 minutes

Positive peer relations in childhood have been linked to which of the following in adulthood

Meaningful Photos for Students

Students use photography or drawing to explore purpose and meaning in their lives.

Middle School, High School, College

Multiple Sessions

Positive peer relations in childhood have been linked to which of the following in adulthood

Music to Inspire Kindness

Make music together to encourage generosity and helping behavior in young children.

PreK/Lower Elementary

≤ 15 minutes

Positive peer relations in childhood have been linked to which of the following in adulthood

Promoting Perspective-Taking Through the Use of Literature

Review and expand your classroom or school library with books that represent diverse backgrounds.

PreK/Lower Elementary, Upper Elementary, Middle School, High School

≤ 30 minutes

Positive peer relations in childhood have been linked to which of the following in adulthood

Put Down the Put-Downs

Create class community by brainstorming ways to stop put-downs.

Upper Elementary, Middle School, High School

≤ 1 hour

Positive peer relations in childhood have been linked to which of the following in adulthood

Random Acts of Kindness

Students practice kindness to increase their happiness 

PreK/Lower Elementary, Upper Elementary, Middle School, High School, College

Multiple Sessions

Positive peer relations in childhood have been linked to which of the following in adulthood

Reading Ourselves Whole: A Contemplative Choral Reading Method

Lead a brief choral reading practice that fosters community and connection.

High School, College, Adult

≤ 15 minutes

Positive peer relations in childhood have been linked to which of the following in adulthood

Reflecting on SEL Skills

Students discuss the SEL skills touched upon during the activity in which they have just participated.

PreK/Lower Elementary, Upper Elementary, Middle School

≤ 15 minutes

Positive peer relations in childhood have been linked to which of the following in adulthood

Responding to Differences

Students explore how our beliefs about differences influence the ways in which we see and choose to interact with each other.

Positive peer relations in childhood have been linked to which of the following in adulthood

Seeing the Good in Others

Students look for the good in others by acknowledging each other’s strengths. (Gratitude for Tweens and Teens Lesson 3)

Middle School, High School

≤ 1 hour

Positive peer relations in childhood have been linked to which of the following in adulthood

Self-Care Circle

Use the Circle process to encourage self-care among staff and students in all dimensions.

Middle School, High School, College, Adult

≤ 30 minutes

Positive peer relations in childhood have been linked to which of the following in adulthood

Standing Up Against Discrimination

Students explore real-world examples to help them identify peaceful ways to respond to discrimination.

High School

Multiple Sessions

Positive peer relations in childhood have been linked to which of the following in adulthood

Superstar

Students build trust and inclusion through a quick and fun game that reveals their commonalities.

PreK/Lower Elementary, Upper Elementary, Middle School

≤ 15 minutes

Positive peer relations in childhood have been linked to which of the following in adulthood

Supporting SEL at Grade-Level or Content Area Team Meetings

Discussion prompts that guide teachers to reflect and collaborate on effective SEL implementation.

Positive peer relations in childhood have been linked to which of the following in adulthood

The SEL 3 Signature Practices

A tool for fostering a supportive and equitable classroom and school environment and for promoting SEL.

PreK/Lower Elementary, Upper Elementary, Middle School, High School, College, Adult

Positive peer relations in childhood have been linked to which of the following in adulthood

The Virtue of Good Sense

Students define and practice “good sense,” or the will and know-how to do the right thing.

High School

Multiple Sessions

Positive peer relations in childhood have been linked to which of the following in adulthood

Understanding Prejudice Through Paper Plate Portraits

Students identify others' assumptions about them and then describe who they really are on the inside.

PreK/Lower Elementary, Upper Elementary

≤ 1 hour

Positive peer relations in childhood have been linked to which of the following in adulthood

What Friends Do

Students learn how kindness and gratitude strengthen friendships through Splat the Cat.

PreK/Lower Elementary

≤ 30 minutes

Positive peer relations in childhood have been linked to which of the following in adulthood

What's the Tint of Your Glasses?

Students learn how our different backgrounds give us different perspectives.

Upper Elementary, Middle School, High School

≤ 1 hour

Positive peer relations in childhood have been linked to which of the following in adulthood

Where We Stand

Students examine how they face everyday moral dilemmas and consider who and what influences their reactions when conflicts arise.

Upper Elementary, Middle School

≤ 1 hour

Positive peer relations in childhood have been linked to which of the following in adulthood

Who Are Your Heroes?

Through stories, discussion, and creative presentations about true heroes, students foster their compassion for others and see brave community involvement as an admirable, heroic way of life.

PreK/Lower Elementary, Upper Elementary, Middle School, High School

Multiple Sessions

“’You have been my friend,’ replied Charlotte. ‘That in itself is a tremendous thing.’”

What are positive peer relationships?

High-quality friendships involve not only companionship, but also caring, validation, and support. In addition to playing together, good friends feel comfortable opening up to each other and are motivated to resolve conflicts that arise.

What major developments occur in peer relations during middle childhood?

Emotional/Social Changes Children in this age group might: Start to form stronger, more complex friendships and peer relationships. It becomes more emotionally important to have friends, especially of the same sex. Experience more peer pressure.

What are examples of peer relationships?

As we have seen, research shows that peer connections can have a huge influence on a child's development..
Getting a friend's attention..
Sharing objects..
Asking peers to share objects..
Providing a play idea to a peer..
Saying something nice to a friend..

In which of the following stage peer relations are very important?

Students of child development have always drawn attention to the importance of peers, especially in adolescence, when peers may facilitate each other's antisocial behaviour. It has often been assumed that peers are less important in early childhood, when relationships with family members are more influential.